Translation: Vriendin – 7th August 2018

Wendy (48) werd als kind seksueel misbruikt door een Jehovah’s Getuige

Wendy (48) was sexually abused as a child by a Jehovah’s Witness

Wendy grew up as Jehovah’s Witness. As a child she was sexually abused for six years by an elder of the religious community. “It would be my fault. How could that be? I was only five. “

For years Wendy kept her mouth over what happened to her between the ages of five and eleven. She was sexually abused in the 1970s by an elder of the Jehovah’s Witnesses. It destroyed her youth. Every day she experiences the consequences of that traumatic event. “Because I was born as Jehovah’s Witness, my youth was dominated by faith. Although in my opinion it is actually no belief. You better call it a sect. Three times a week we went as a family to meetings where Bible stories were read. My brother, sister and I always had to come along. We were not allowed to do anything. No Sinterklaas and Christmas celebrate, no birthdays. On Sunday our clothes were not allowed to get dirty and certain programs on TV we were not allowed to watch. Women and children must also always be obedient and docile. I sometimes had red welts on my back, if I had not listened properly. My mother could also squeeze hard. There was little love in our family and we did not speak much. In retrospect, we were belittled and mentally abused in the name of that faith. The purpose of all those rules was that you would come to paradise. I grew up with very different values ​​and standards than other children of my age. At school I was bullied because my parents were with the Jehovah’s. But unfortunately that was not the worst … ” The purpose of all those rules was that you would come to paradise. I grew up with very different values ​​and standards than other children of my age. At school I was bullied because my parents were with the Jehovah’s. But unfortunately that was not the worst … ” The purpose of all those rules was that you would come to paradise. I grew up with very different values ​​and standards than other children of my age. At school I was bullied because my parents were with the Jehovah’s. But unfortunately that was not the worst … “

Silently undergo
Wendy’s parents regularly visited an elder of the Jehovah’s Witnesses. Elders lead the congregation, provide the believers with personal conversations with them and guide them in their faith. “My parents found it important to meet this elder often. While they were drinking coffee there on Sunday, the elder took me to his pigsty. Supposedly to look at the pigs and help with feeding. But nothing came of feeding. He abused me while my parents were talking to his wife. My parents also regularly brought my brother, sister and me to him to stay. As soon as I lay in bed, he came to me and then it happened again. Sometimes I only slept in a room, but more often together with my sister. She too was abused. It was already an old, gray man. Grandpa of different grandchildren. I think his wife knew about it, because I often heard her call up something. It was horrible again and again. I was so scared, but no one dared to tell anything. I went through everything tacitly because he threatened me. If I told you something terrible things would happen. Moreover, he let me know that it was my fault, that I had caused it myself. Only my sister knew about it. I talked to her about it occasionally, but we were silent to our parents. Moreover, he let me know that it was my fault, that I had caused it myself. Only my sister knew about it. I talked to her about it occasionally, but we were silent to our parents. Moreover, he let me know that it was my fault, that I had caused it myself. Only my sister knew about it. I talked to her about it occasionally, but we were silent to our parents.

“I DID NOT WANT TO HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH FAITH ANYMORE. THEN JUST LOSE EVERYTHING. “

My parents left the community of Jehovah’s Witnesses in my teens for several years. They never told me what the reason was, but I think it had something to do with that elder. Possibly they knew that he was doing things that were not good. Yet my parents went back to the Jehovah’s because they could not find a connection in the ordinary society. If you leave the community, it means that you are rejected and immediately lose all your acquaintances and friends. Apparently they did not want to lose it. “

All lost
When Wendy was sixteen years old, her mother told her that the elder was dead. “‘Good, I will tamp the earth well’, I answered. “Oh, so you too,” she said casually. She said that he had sexually abused more than fifty children, including his own children, grandchildren and my sister. It felt like a slap in my face. My mother had already smelled all the while, but brought me to that man to stay there. I did not understand that. How could she do such a thing? I fled the house and did not want to have anything to do with faith anymore. Then just lose everything. For me, the size was full. I went over to an acquaintance. He offered me a room so that I did not have to go back to my parents. “

After Wendy broke away from the Jehovah’s, she did not speak to anyone about her youth. “I was ashamed. Jehovah’s are known as ‘those people with that foot in the door’. I did not want anyone to know that I ever belonged to that. With disgust, I looked back at that time. Opposite the outside world, Jehovah’s peace and love proclaimed, but I knew that nothing was true. “

After six months Wendy contacted her parents again. “I did that from a kind of loyalty. In the end they remained my parents. I said that they should not bother me with their faith, that we would never agree, but that I wanted to fix it anyway. They agreed with that. My brother and sister thought differently about that. They have to this day every contact with my parents broken and left when they were of age. “

Read the whole story of Wendy in Vriendin 32 .