I’m pleased to welcome you to my new site. My name is Evelyn De L’Ombre. I am an ex-Jehovah’s Witness. I was brought up in the religion and was a third generation Witness. My grandparents converted to the religion back in the 1930s in the time of Joseph F Rutherford. They were baptised in the early 1940s (maternal grandfather) and 1950s (both grandmothers). We were steeped in the doctrine and history of the organisation and I never questioned that it was anything but the “truth” until very recently. This is even though I left the organisation back in the early 1990s. This website is about my personal journey. It’s a tool to help me to personally heal from the psychological damage done to me by the religion. It’s important that all of my readers understand that I don’t hate any of the individuals within Jehovah’s Witnesses. The majority of them are wonderful and sincere human beings. This site isn’t to personally attack anyone. I will be discussing my personal experience of being a Witness. I am not an activist, I’m just a very damaged individual who needs to live the rest of their life in peace. I need to find a way of putting the damaging teachings of this organisation behind me.
I’m currently in therapy and it is this talking of old events that made me realise that I need to document my journey and experiences so that I can hopefully come to terms with what happened to me, finally put it all behind me, and in the process maybe help others to understand that there is life after leaving the organisation.
There are many activists who I have referred to and many resources that I have used to help me over the past couple of years. In particular, I would like to thank Lloyd Evans and the editors and contributors of JWsurvey.org. Lloyd, you don’t know me. I saw you talk in London when you released your book, The Reluctant Apostate. You impressed me as a kind and sincere person who was deeply moved by the injustice and abuse caused by the organisation by either direct behaviour or by inaction on their behalf. You have helped me finally come to terms with the fact that the Watchtower organisation isn’t the “truth” and that it is just a fundamentalist religious sect.
There are dangerous and abusive people in the Watchtower organisation, but there are dangerous and abusive people in all organisations. However, as I previously mentioned, I do feel that the vast majority are sincere and genuine people. One of the very things that Jehovah’s Witnesses teach is that just because someone is sincere in their beliefs doesn’t make them right. But of course, they always taught that they were both sincere AND right in their beliefs. I also believe that the vast majority of JWs really believe what they teach and the rules by which they live. I also think that this sincerity and belief goes right the way up into the Governing Body. I don’t think that they are behaving deliberately to harm anyone. However, it is the belief system which causes a skewed view of life and human behaviour that has the devastating side effect of being highly damaging and in some cases abusive.
I shall share with you some of the experiences I have had and why I am no longer a Jehovah’s Witness. Thank you for taking the time to visit my site.